December 10: Even Helpers Need Rest

Your phone keeps ringing. People need you. And you’re starting to dread the sound.

When you start helping others in recovery, it feels great. You have something to give. People need you. You see lives change. And because it feels so good, it’s easy to keep saying yes. Another sponsee. Another service job. Another late-night call. Another ministry at church.

Then one day you realize you’re exhausted. You’re short with your own family. You haven’t been to a meeting just for yourself in weeks. You’re resentful toward the people you’re trying to help. Your prayer life has dried up. That’s burnout, and it’s a real danger in Step Twelve.

Jesus’ disciples had just come back from their first mission trip. They’d been preaching and healing and were bursting to tell Him everything. And so many people were coming and going that they didn’t even have time to eat. Jesus’ response is striking. Come away into a deserted place, and rest awhile.

Jesus, with crowds of needy people all around, told His helpers to stop and rest. That tells you something. Rest isn’t selfish. It’s not a failure of love. It’s part of how God keeps helpers going.

You can’t give what you don’t have. If your own tank is empty, you have nothing to offer anyone. Worse, burned-out helpers are at risk themselves. Resentment, self-pity and exhaustion are the same old dangers, just dressed in service clothes.

So check yourself. Are you still going to meetings to receive, not just to give? Are you still praying, reading, calling your own sponsor? Are you sleeping? Are you spending time with your family? Do you have any time that’s just for rest and fun?

If not, it’s okay to pull back. You can tell a sponsee you’re not available after a certain hour. You can step down from a service job. You can say no. That’s not abandoning the work. It’s protecting your ability to keep doing it.

One thing today

Write down every way you’re serving others right now. Circle one you could set down or scale back. Then plan one hour this week that’s just for rest with God.

A prayer

Lord, I’ve been pouring out without filling up. Call me away to rest awhile. Restore me, so I can keep helping others from a full heart, not an empty one. Amen.

Staying healthy while you serve is part of Step Twelve.

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