June 17: As a Father Has Compassion

Father’s Day comes around this time of year, and for many in recovery it stirs up mixed feelings.

For some, it’s a happy day. A father who was kind and steady. Children who are glad to see you. For others, it’s harder. A father who drank. A father who left, or was cruel, or was never really there. A father you’ve lost. Or maybe you’re the father, and you know your drinking hurt your kids. Maybe they aren’t speaking to you. Maybe they are, but cautiously.

All of that can surface at once.

David writes: like a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him. For He knows how we are made. He remembers that we are dust.

That’s tender. God isn’t harsh with you. He knows you’re made of dust. Fragile. Limited. He has compassion the way the best fathers do.

If your own father couldn’t show you that, this verse is still for you. God can be the Father you needed. He can give what was missing.

If you’re a father with regrets, this verse is for you too. God has compassion on you. And as you grow in recovery, you can learn to show that kind of compassion to your own kids. It’s never too late to start.

Be careful if this day brings big family gatherings. Old roles and old drinks can show up together. Have a plan. Know who you’ll call. Know when you’ll leave. A meeting can be a good anchor.

If your father is on your inventory, or your children are on your list of people you’ve harmed, don’t try to fix everything this weekend. That’s what Steps Eight and Nine are for. For now, be honest, be kind, and be present.

One thing today

Do one thing that fits your situation: call your father or your kids, visit a grave, write a letter you may never send, or thank a man who has been a father to you in faith. Then call someone in recovery.

A prayer

Father in heaven, this day brings up a lot. Thank You that You know I’m dust, and You have compassion on me. Be the Father I need. Help me show Your compassion to the people in my life. Amen.

Back to this month’s step: Step Six.

Talk it through with Jimmy or Sarah — first month free

Jimmy and Sarah are AI sponsors who know the Twelve Steps and the Bible. They'll listen, walk the steps with you, and keep pointing you to real people: a meeting, a sponsor, a church.

Download on theApp Store Get it onGoogle Play

Free to download · first month free, no card · adults 18+

After the first month, talking with Jimmy or Sarah needs Plus ($9.99/month or $59.99/year).