Newcomer in Recovery: What It Means to Be New
A newcomer is a person who is new to recovery: just starting to attend meetings, often in the first days, weeks or months without a drink. Some come in shaking. Some come in skeptical. Some come because a judge or a spouse insisted.
What being new is like
The first meetings can feel strange. People say their first names and that they’re alcoholics. They use phrases you don’t understand. Someone you’ve never met hugs you. It’s normal to sit in the back and leave fast.
Many groups say the newcomer is the most important person in the room. That’s not flattery. The newcomer reminds everyone else what it was like and why they keep coming. Helping the new person helps the whole group stay sober.
Practical help for someone new:
- Get three phone numbers and call one before the next meeting.
- Go to many meetings early on. Try different groups.
- Ask someone to be a temporary sponsor.
- Don’t try to understand everything. Keep coming back.
A word for Christians
Jesus kept welcoming people the religious crowd kept at a distance. Being new and unsure doesn’t put you outside His reach.
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
If you’ve been in church for years but you’re new to recovery, you’re still a newcomer here. That’s fine. Humility makes the first months easier.
Your first move
If you’re new, read Start here and find one meeting for this week. Pray a short prayer in the car before you walk in. If you’re not new, sit next to someone who is.
Common questions
Do I have to say I'm new at a meeting?
You don't have to, but it helps. Many groups ask if anyone is new so they can welcome you, offer phone numbers and sometimes a booklet. You can also just say your first name.
How long am I a newcomer?
There's no set line. People often use the word for the first 90 days or the first year. Some old-timers joke that they're still newcomers.
What should a newcomer focus on?
Not drinking today, going to meetings, getting phone numbers, finding a sponsor and starting Step 1. Leave the rest for later.
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